Do you fantasize about finally quitting your job and doing something you love but feel too scared to talk to your partner or spouse about it? Or have you tried to talk to your spouse about your dreams for more fulfilling work and just ended up fighting instead? Talking to a partner about wanting to make a career change can feel really hard. When you want to make a career change it can feel really out of control for your partner, so the conversation often ends up focusing on the ways in which your partner’s fears (How will we pay our bills??) or their beliefs about work (You should just live for the weekend like everyone else!) are in direct conflict to your desire to make a change. And when conversations about your potential career change leave you feeling angry, unsupported or misunderstood it can feel tempting to either just…
Be honest: when someone asks you how you’re doing how often do you respond by talking about how busy you are? Although I’ve come a long way, I know I have a tendency to let myself become so busy that it reaches the point of overwhelm. I did it back in my life in the corporate world, when I was often in environments where the expectation was to work long hours & always be ready to put your life on hold for the sake of work. And later my vision of myself as someone who was perpetually “busy” reached a whole new level when I left my corporate job & was starting a coaching business while also working a part-time job and taking care of two kids under two. I remember the first time I heard of the idea of being addicted to busy-ness. Part of me wanted to protest:…
Last week I led a group of moms in a workshop on how to make a meaningful career change and one of the things I talked about was my own journey to finding and doing work I loved. If you’ve read my story, you know that I spent most of my career doing what I thought I SHOULD do because I was scared to leave what I thought of as the “safety” of the corporate world. I knew I was capable of doing so much more, but I had no idea what that “something” looked like. And sometimes I worried that I was a lost cause who didn’t actually have any passions or dreams. In the workshop I shared three mindset shifts that allowed me to finally figure out what I love to do & have the courage to pursue it: 1) I got out of my head and started…
Understanding your unique strengths is an important step in the journey to figuring out what kind of work lights you up. Back when I was miserable in my string of corporate jobs and unsure what to do instead, I was at a loss when it came to figuring out what made me unique. I had invested so much energy for so many years learning how to be good at the work I thought I SHOULD do that I had no idea what I was uniquely good at or what energized me. There are a few reasons why it can sometimes feel hard to identify our own unique gifts. First, we tend to assume that whatever comes easily to us comes easily to everyone. We sell ourselves short. In addition, most of us are conditioned at a young age to focus on our flaws and how to fix them rather than…
We’ve all had those days where you feel so frustrated at work that you just want to scream or cry or both. Maybe you’re dealing with a client or coworker who drives you crazy Or you’ve got a boss who’s critical or demanding Or the commute is killing you Or the work itself is so frustrating you feel like you just can’t take it anymore. When you’re miserable at work it’s easy to carry those negative feelings around with you all the time. A bad day at work can easily turn into an evening of snapping at your partner for every little thing even when all you wanted was to just have a nice evening at home after a crappy day. Which just leaves you feeling worse. And the frustration can double when your irritation at your current job is draining all the energy you need to plan how you’re…